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Why do you keep replaying that one moment?
Do you still think about it after the meeting? You know the feeling.. the meeting is over and you’re back at your desk, maybe making coffee, answering emails, getting on with the rest of your day. And then your mind goes back to that one moment... “that answer was terrible” “why did i say it like that?” “I should have just said…” “did they notice i was nervous?” “why couldn't i think of that when they asked me?” So you replay it... Sometimes once, sometimes 10 times. And the annoying thing is...
Why does getting one question wrong feel so serious?
There’s a question i often come back to when someone tells me they freeze in a meeting: “What were you worried would happen?” Usually, the first answer is pretty simple. “I’d look stupid.” “I’d mess up.” “I wouldn’t have a good answer.” “I’d lose their confidence in me.” But there’s often a little more underneath it... Because if you think about it, getting one question wrong in a meeting probably isn't going to ruin your career. You might stumble. Someone might disagree with you. You might...
You don't freeze everywhere, but why in THAT room?
So why does it happen in THAT room? You can spend entire evening talking to friends and never once think about how you sound or if they are judging you. You’re not monitoring your voice. You’re not rehearsing your next sentence... you’re just there: Talking. Listening. Being YOU. But then you walk into a meeting on Monday morning and something changes: Maybe your boss is there. Maybe it’s a room full of senior people. Maybe you have to present something you know inside out. Or someone asks...
I’ve seen very successful people struggle with the same thing.
He had spoken to presidents. He led one of Africa’s largest banks. He was Africa's youngest CEO.. he's still a CEO. And yet when it came to certain high-stakes moments, he still felt that familiar thing happen. The nerves. The pressure. That feeling that somehow, despite everything he had accomplished, he might not come across the way he wanted to. That story matters to me because it kills one of the biggest myths about public speaking anxiety. You would think that the more successful you...
Why do you freeze in rooms you know are safe?
hi Reader, There’s something i’ve noticed after working with people on public speaking nerves and fear for the last few years... the room they’re afraid of today is often not where the fear started. I’ve seen it with people who freeze in meetings. People who suddenly can’t find the word they were just thinking about. People who can explain something perfectly 1-1, but go blank when 10 people are looking at them. And sometimes they’ll say to me: “I don’t know what’s happening to me. I KNOW...
What if you've been asking the wrong question?
hi Reader, I've been thinking about a conversation I had with a business owner. He left his job to start his own business. The problem was, his business depended on one thing - public speaking: Talking to people Sales calls 1-1 client meetings Small group presentations (15-20 people) He knew his work.. he cared deeply about helping people. But every time the conversation mattered, his body seemed to have a different plan: his heart would race. his thoughts would disappear. he'd lose access to...
I practiced for 18 months. Then froze in 8 seconds.
hi Reader, For 3 decades, i believed confidnce worked like this: Practice. Repeat. And get better. Eventually fear disappears.. it made perfect sense. So when i moved to Missouri US from Pakistan, i became obsessed with improving my English pronunciation & American accent. I spent next 18 months practicing 5-6 times a week.. Listening > Repeating > Recording myself > Comparing. Little by little i saw the difference (my friends saw it too) I thought.. "Finally this is working." Then i joined...
Why your mind suddenly feels different under PRESSURE?
After my last email post, someone replied with something that stayed with me. She said that before speaking, her mind fills with questions like: "Do i sound authentic?" "Am i making sense?" "What if i lose my train of thought?" Then she wrote one sentence that perfectly captured the experience: "It's a barrage of chatter in my mind." i think many people can relate to that. Here's what i've noticed after working with senior tech & non-tech leaders: most of them don't suddenly become less...
Something wasn't adding up...
hi Reader, Something has been bothering me for the last couple of years.. The more senior leaders i worked with, the less one explanation made sense. Many of them came to me believing they had a communication problem. They wanted to become more confident speakers, communicate more clearly or stop feeling so nervous in important meetings. That seemed reasonable until I noticed a pattern... Some of the people struggling the most were also the most knowledgeable. They had years of experience....
Last Thursday, i bombed my 1st speech in front of 30 people...
112th Issue of From Silent to Seen Newsletter Last Thursday, i bombed my 1st speech in front of 30 people at a Toastmaster club i joined 3 weeks ago... here’s what actually happened:prior to joining this club, i took a 9-months break from Toastmasters due to my car accident in Oct ‘25.3 weeks ago, i joined this new Toastmasters club and made a few critical mistakes before & during my 1st speech:1 >> i went with TAKERS mentality - this was the biggest one. i wanted to make that speech about...
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